There are many times that we definitely feel the need God more than ever. One of those times is when we begin to feel lonely. Sometimes it can be due to lack of a marital relationship, or friends. Also, it could be due to the loss of a loved one who we held dear to our hearts. Even more, there are some who have not had children and the loneliness that they feel nags at them everyday. Sometimes we will find ourselves daydreaming and longing for that loneliness to come to an end or even daydream about when those people or circumstances were present in our lives. It is not hard to come to the question of why God allows something like loneliness to exist or why He doesn’t step in like He did with Adam in Genesis 2:18 :The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” In this verse, God placed Adam in a deep sleep and created Eve. Many people who are single for a long time desire for God to make the same decision for them. It sometimes leads them into settling for relationships that are out of God’s design for their lives. Falling in love with people who don’t have God in their hearts is so dangerous for the believer. Many times, they are lead astray from God, rejecting His commandments and choosing to follow the world’s standards.
Many times, those who long to have children are discouraged upon finding out they are unable to conceive. They may have prayed and prayed for God to give them a child and tried many different methods to give birth. However, when the element of time begins to pass by, their hearts may grow cold towards God’s ability to give them the baby that they long for. As this begins to happen, it may cause these individuals to spend less time in church, less time in prayer as they may feel that their prayers are useless and that God is somehow not listening to them. As they grow in despair, they may feel that their faith is not enough.
Other times people lose loved ones that were near and dear to their heart. That individual may be a spouse, sibling, or even a child. During these most difficult times, one can dive into loneliness that grips their hearts and minds. I have heard people ask the question why. Why would God allow the person to die? Why would God not answer my many prayers and petitions to allow my child to live? As the questions about God’s “absence” during the most difficult times grow, it may cause some to lose their faith. They may feel that God is not with them and they are all alone. In the case of spouse’s death, some people believe that God betrayed them in taking away the love of their life. This is especially true if it was a sudden and unexpected death. In facing the most horrendous time of their lives, many feel that God is not justified in taking the life of their loved one. Sometimes this equates in years of built up anger and resentment towards God.
I know that you are thinking that all of this is a list of problems and symptoms with no solution for the issues at hand. So, let’s get to the solution. It begins and ends with God. I would never tell you during your time of pain that the problem is you. It’s perfectly human to wonder about where God is during the most difficult trials of our lives. We are imperfect and unable to understand the move of a perfect God that sees beyond our temporary and very limited element of time. He is able to direct the events of our life in the direction of our victory. Sometimes that means we have to go through times of pain and sadness. However, God knows that beyond that sadness is a joy that the world is not able to comprehend. The bible tells us that all things work together for the good of those that love the Lord, and to them who are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28). During our times of sadness and loneliness, we have to draw closer to God. He knows that there are many things that we do not understand. However, He wants us to use those times of loneliness and pain to draw closer to Him and to accept the comfort which is found in the Holy Spirit. Beloved, I know that this is easier said than done. Sometimes the pain is so prevalent in our lives that the thought of moving forward in God seems impossible. Nonetheless, it is necessary for us to live what we say we believe during those times. Our Christian faith, our music, the Word of God is filled with the urgency to trust in the Lord. Trusting Him means that we have to lay down every area of our life and believe with all of our hearts that He has our best interests at heart. Now believing that is easy and comforting when we don’t have many obstacles in our lives. It’s simple to do during our good times. I believe that those scriptures however, were written for the hard times of our lives. See, long before we ever were, God was. He knew before our lives began that there would be times that we would hurt so bad that our faith itself would be questioned. He knew that our hearts sometimes would be broken beyond anything we can fathom. Therefore, He laid the blueprint, which is His Word, to let us know that He has a way out of the pain. It truly is a testament of our own faith when we are able to see that God’s purpose is not for our harm, but for our good.
There are so many times that we go to the dentist. He goes into our mouth and sometimes the instruments that are used to complete the work are very scary. They have drills and needles that cause excruciating pain while they are in use. These may cause so much pain and discomfort in our lives for awhile. However, when the work is complete and the swelling goes down, there is a peace knowing that all the pain that we went through was ultimately for our good. The same goes for all of the work that God is doing in our lives. We must know that He has what is best for us. He is a good God that knows way more than we could ever know. Loneliness is something that may come for many reasons, but God has so much in store for us. He will heal our broken hearts. Just trust Him.
I know that there are many who are suffering from loneliness.Here are some bible verses that would be helpful with it:
Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the Lord your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.”
10 When my father and my mother forsake me,
Then the Lord will take care of me.
31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him up for us all, how shall He not with Him also freely give us all things? 33 Who shall bring a charge against God’s elect? It is God who justifies. 34 Who is he who condemns? It is Christ who died, and furthermore is also risen, who is even at the right hand of God, who also makes intercession for us. 35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 36 As it is written:
“For Your sake we are killed all day long;
We are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.”
37 Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. 38 For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, 39 nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Be encouraged love.