Fake friendships are so common nowadays that people operate in them as if they are something that are actually necessary. One of my favorite movies of all time is Mean Girls. In this movie, girls who are always together and call themselves best friends are anything but. They are evil towards one another, unloyal, and competitive. They talk harshly to each other and judge people within their click and others based on their looks. Years ago when that movie came out, it was comical to see how people who called themselves friends would treat each other so badly. However, times have changed drastically. Now we live in a society where we are taught to live a make believe life. There are so many people who are on social media portraying lives that they are not actually living. People befriend someone and they may in fact be great friends in the beginning, but eventually, the intention towards that person somehow changes. The end result is two people who may talk often, laugh together, text each other, but talk so badly about each other behind closed doors that you would swear they are enemies. I must confess that I could never understand this type of friendship. In my world, I believe that if you don’t like someone, you should just stay away from that person. Doesn’t mean that you have to hate them (the bible tells us to love our enemies). There is a way to separate yourself from a person without being rude or harsh towards them. I just truly believe that if you don’t like someone, cordial is the way to go. People shouldn’t be on your Facebook/Twitter/Snapchat/in if they don’t like you. It really irks my nerves to have someone posting on my timeline or to see them in my facebook thread if we are not friends. Maybe that’s just me. Beloved I know that I have said a lot in this blog, but what I want you to take from this is to erase the fake. If there is someone in your life that you don’t get along with, or don’t mean you any good, then separate yourself from them. There is no rule, no law that says that you have to have a friendship title with anyone who means you harm. If the world could just grasp the idea that friendship involves people who really have the best interests of his/her friend at heart, it would be a better place. When we look at the bible, a good example of friendship was Johnathan (who was Saul’s son) and David (who was Saul’s enemy). The bible describes their friendship as their hearts being connected. Jonathan knew that David had the heart of God and that he would be the one to take the throne after his father instead of himself, yet it did not deter him from being a great friend to him. When you read their story about how much they loved and cared for one another, it makes the “friendship” that this world has look ridiculous. I have personally learned that I don’t need fake friends. I am so happy that the people in my life who are this way are far from me. I value REAL people, genuine people who love and care for me. I only want people on my boat who will be rowing with me and not poking holes seeking my sabotage. I am aware that not hanging in cliques and being on every scene with a group of women makes me unusual and I embrace it because at the end of the day, I am not living to meet someone’s image of what I should be. I don’t need the world’s support and I have so much peace in my heart because of it. My prayer is that everyone can become this way. If you have a person in your life who is masquerading as a friend (and trust me you know who they are) I encourage you even right now to separate from them. The fake friendships are toxic in your life, they don’t mean you well, and at the end of the day, they do you more harm than good. Now some people may feel that they need this person in their life and by all means, keep them if you feel this way, but you owe it to yourself to at least address the issues. If this is a person who you inevitably have to hang around and talk to, go to them directly about their disloyalty. Set a standard in your life and if they can’t live up to what true friendship is then you should not feel bad in letting them go. The fake loyalty has to stop. The backstabbing has to quit. It is truly a waste of time. I promise you that as you begin to let go of all of that extra baggage of fake friendship, God will bring real friends into your life!! I am a living witness. I thank God truly for the separation from and elimination of fake friendships in my life. Be encouraged.